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You have a great job.

But you don't love it.

You're living a good life.

But there's gotta be more to it.

You're grateful for what you have.

But deep down, if you died tomorrow, you'd feel like you didn't live life to the fullest.

You're looking forward to the weekend because that's when you are free to do whatever you want to do.

I know - I've been there. I've spent a great deal of my life working jobs with impressive titles that sound great on my resume, yet I never knew why I was doing what I was doing. I was waiting for something to change - waiting for the one great idea that would change everything. Some nights I'd stay up stressing about how my life was drifting away and my hair starting to fall off until I was just too exhausted to keep thinking. I can't be losing my hair already, this is supposed to happen when I'm older. I'm not ready for this! I haven't even done XYZ yet!

At the same time, if you had told high school me that I would be where I am today, I would have laughed.

Yet, I felt like my weekends were slipping away. They go by so quickly. I just have enough time to get myself back together and then it's time to go back to the grind. I do just enough to be able to answer the most asked question in the office on Monday morning: what did you do this weekend?

What about you? Do you feel like something is not right?

Are you happy where you are?

When I get asked this question, it feels unnatural to say anything other than "yes," and that's what I do.

Why wouldn't I be happy? I have all of the necessities for a comfortable life on Maslow's hierarchy of needs, and everyone always says to be happy with what you have because it can always be a lot worse. But even then something feels off.

The feeling that we aren't doing what we feel like we should be doing is dissonance.

We really want to change what we are doing, but do not because it seems risky and it is difficult to find the time in our average day.

You can see the implications of this all around in people who constantly talk about desiring to do something else, but also always have an excuse for why they can't.

Basically, because you don't want to do a bunch more work and you're afraid of losing your TV and toaster, you are going to keep feeling dissonant.

But eventually the dissonance gets too strong and can no longer be ignored.

So when someone asks if you're happy and you experience dissonance, you're not the only one. Half of the people that you see during your commute - and at work - probably feel the same way. 1

That's precisely why I created this guide, to tell you exactly what to do to eliminate that dissonance. There are certain things that you can do to get started right now, as detailed in the first step.

If you find that you don't need this guide, that's great. I'm actually glad, and I wish society were at a place where nobody would need this guide.

But as it were, I also wish someone would have given me this guide three years ago - I could have learned what I needed to do faster. My hope is that this guide will help you accelerate the change you know you need to make in your life.

There's no need to withhold helpful information.

Go to Step 1.

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PS: this type of thing is everywhere. If you don't like my guide, there are several a blogs, podcasts, and videos that walk you through the same thing. You can even hire a coach.

1. According to a study by the Conference Board -- as reported by Susan Adams -- 52.3% of Americans are unhappy at work. So many people? Why don't they do something about it? Also reported: 46.6% say they don't feel satisfied with their job security.


earlier posts:

The old intro to Steps to Freedom 21 Apr 2018

Be less accomodating 17 Apr 2018

Happy April Feels 5 Apr 2018

The best way to get yourself out of bed 1 Apr 2018

Future is coming 26 Mar 2018

How to play Risk without the board 18 Mar 2018

Maintaining the things in your life 10 Mar 2018

You suck at budgeting 3 Mar 2018

Guilt-free spending money 27 Feb 2018

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